Several versions of myself ago, there were 3 girls at my church that were highly sought after.  They were aptly called the Big 3.  It was almost comical to see the guys fall over themselves to impress them and to see who could get lunch with them after service.  I actually did take one of them to a dance when she was younger but it didn’t click.

Anyway, I just observed.  Part of it was the girl I lit the candles for, my inherent reluctance to play someone else’s game, but intuitively, I knew in a weird John Nash game theory sort of way that the correct strategy to be noticed was to ignore them or at least pretend to.  

And guess what, the most attractive approached me out of the blue to introduce herself.  She reminded me of the girl sung about in the Eagles’ Peaceful Easy Feeling.  But I was really shy so I think I just turned beet red and deflected.  Never figured out how to translate the other skills to this arena.

But that’s the lesson.  I used to teach my students this bit of worldly wisdom – if you want to court a woman, first court her sister.