Recently, I helped a friend track down someone who was a bit difficult to find.  I eventually did, but before doing so, predicted several things about the individual.  Pretty accurate.  Once one, always one.

We then talked a bit about dating, how the qualities we consider desirable aren’t necessarily what we need or even want.  As if someone super rich, successful, smart would definitely make a good partner.  There are correlations between those factors and good qualities but at times, they can be inadequate proxies.  I used to somewhat in jest, list Ivy League education, yup that stupid.  I should have just gone with strong brave kind, what I advise the kids to look for.  I must say the boy has always been drawn to beautiful girls / women – in his class, daycare, waitresses.  This is not soft eyes.

This principle also applies to other facets of life.  I told my friend, the former officer, that there are two scoreboards in life – the one many see with wealth, title, accomplishments, assets, popularity, etc.  

And there is the one that matters, the less visible one.  I think you know what’s on this one – all that is often preached, but not practiced.  Hard to remember and implement, but the one that you hope is lit up at the end of the game – Patrick Mahomes style.

I once played in a tournament when an opposing player started to trash talk.  I just pointed at the scoreboard.